Surrender to Discomfort
When you allow yourself the discomfort of experiencing your emotions - you'll find your way to peace and healing.
I don't know about you, but I used to believe I COULD do it all. Family, work, volunteer, help friends and family in need. I never stopped to ask myself WHY would I want to do it all. When I believed the myth of doing it all, I would run myself into the ground to accomplish everything. Asking for help was cheating. As I TRIED to do it all, there was little time left for myself. I was too exhausted to notice or care. I was miserable. In the myth of doing it all, they conveniently leave out the part about not having time for yourself.
I'm so grateful for the opportunity to raise my grandson (who is three now and full of energy) - there is so much joy. But I'm not going to lie, there is also so much exhaustion. I couldn't do it all if I wanted to! I have to ask for help from my friends, family and worst of all, my ex-husband. I’ve realized I can’t do this all by myself. Taking care of an energetic preschooler is a full time job, and I already have a full time job!
As a single mom, I know a thing or two about taking care of myself. I take time for yoga, spend time with friends and perform my nightly self-care ritual that makes me feel good. It’s the best thing I can do for myself. And for Mason.
In order to make self-care a priority, I’ve had to delegate, prioritize and most importantly, make peace with leaving things undone.
When I began to eliminate the non-essentials from my life, things really began to change. While I enjoy cooking for Mason (something the shutdown taught me - homemade just tastes better!), going to the store, cleaning the house and cutting my grass are things I don't enjoy, so I've outsourced. I'd much rather enjoy Mason than worry about things not getting done. I'm slowly but surely finding peace with leaving things undone, things in my not too distant past that would have made me crazy.
I’ve met many women who say they’d love to take time for themselves, but they just don’t have the time. Honestly, you don’t have time to NOT take time for yourself. I firmly believe we MUST make time for what’s important. Self care is not selfish it is necessary.
Making peace with leaving things undone is a game changer. My hope for you is that you may find peace and maybe even learn to love the art of leaving things undone. Then watch as your life opens up to you.
This blog is intended to provide helpful suggestions for self care and overall well-being. I am not a mental health professional. If you’re struggling I encourage you to seek the help of a professional. Find a Mental Health Professional | National Suicide & Crisis Lifeline: Dial 988