Mindfulness is Your Superpower
It's easy to believe we're too busy to be mindful, but when we're mindless we miss moments of our life.
I used to be that person with no boundaries. I gave of my time and resources tirelessly, until I was exhausted. Without boundaries, I lost myself.
Setting boundaries and saying no allow you to break free from patterns and be true to yourself—if that is who you are in this moment or who you want to be.
Love yourself enough to set boundaries. Your time and energy are precious. You get to choose how you use it. You teach people how to treat you by deciding what you will and won’t accept. ~ Anna Taylor
Boundaries are necessary and should be non-negotiable.
Setting boundaries isn't mean or selfish—it's part of self care and it's one of the ways I practice self love. If we don’t have boundaries how are we able to prioritize what we need?
I know that if my boundaries are not firmly in place, there is usually that one person who will try to manipulate their wants into my world. And when I double down on my boundaries they will be the one who calls me out for being uncaring and selfish. The irony!
With social media, where seemingly everyone shares every thought and emotion without a filter, it can feel like you need to do the same. But you don't. Having boundaries means you get to decide how much you share or don't share—of your thoughts, your time and your energy.
Setting boundaries is definitely not easy. It takes courage, practice and sticking with it, especially when it seems easier to give in. The more you practice, the easier it gets. Give yourself the life you deserve with boundaries—the freedom from being responsible for anybody else but yourself.
Sometimes a boundary means completely removing someone (a friend or family member even) from your life. Difficult, yes, but it is self preservation—especially when we recognize those individuals who try to make us responsible for their behaviors and feelings while taking no responsibility at all. It's okay to:
Realizing not everyone needs 24/7 access to you allows you to make huge changes. By setting boundaries you, and only you, get to decide how much access each person in your life gets so you can focus on what you need.
If you're looking to take your boundary game to the next level, I highly recommend this 10-Day Boundary Challenge on Insight Timer!
This blog is intended to provide helpful suggestions for self care and overall well-being. I am not a mental health professional. If you’re struggling I encourage you to seek the help of a professional. Find a Mental Health Professional | National Suicide & Crisis Lifeline: Dial 988