Heal Your Soul: Finding Healing in Nature
See your yourself and your life with fresh eyes when you spend mindful time in nature.
I used to be that person with no boundaries. I gave my time, energy and resources tirelessly, until I was exhausted and depleted. Without boundaries, I lost myself.
Boundaries are not only necessary, but I believe they should be non-negotiable. You know that one person in your life, who will push a little bit and then keep pushing until you have nothing left to give? That's why boundaries must be non-negotiable.
Fair warning: setting boundaries may offend the person who has been taking advantage of your lack of boundaries.
If you're offended by my boundaries, then you're probably one of the reasons I need them. ~ Steve Marobi
Setting boundaries isn't mean or selfish—boundaries are part of self care and a way to practice self love. If we don’t have boundaries how are we able to prioritize what we need?
From experience, I know my boundaries must be firmly in place, or it’s likely someone will try to manipulate me into doing what they WANT me to do. Versus what I NEED to do to protect my peace.
I realize I have too much at stake to let myself be subjected to the wants and needs of anyone else besides myself.
With social media, where seemingly everyone shares every thought and emotion without a filter, it can feel like you need to do the same. But you don't. Having boundaries means you get to decide how much you share or don't share—of your thoughts, your time, your energy and most importantly, your life.
Setting boundaries takes courage, practice and sticking with it, especially when it seems easier to give in. Consistently enforcing boundaries tells people how you want and deserve to be treated.
Sometimes a boundary means completely removing someone (a friend or family member even) from your life. Difficult, yes, but it is self preservation—especially when we recognize those individuals who try to make us responsible for their behaviors and feelings while taking no responsibility at all. It's okay to:
Realizing not everyone needs 24/7 access to you allows you to make a powerful change in your life. By setting boundaries you, and only you, get to decide how much access each person in your life gets so you can focus on what you need.
Give yourself the life you deserve with boundaries—the freedom from being responsible for anybody else but yourself.
If you're looking to take your boundary game to the next level, I highly recommend this 10-Day Boundary Challenge on Insight Timer!
This blog is intended to provide helpful suggestions for self care and overall well-being. I am not a mental health professional. If you’re struggling I encourage you to seek the help of a professional. Find a Mental Health Professional | National Suicide & Crisis Lifeline: Dial 988