“I can bring home the bacon, fry it up in a pan. And never let you forget you’re a man!”
I blame this 1980 perfume commercial for my belief I could do it all. I had no idea doing it all was a myth! I spent years trying so hard to do everything myself without asking for help.
When’s the last time you asked for help? If you have trouble asking for help, you need a retreat – STAT. Once you realize you deserve to take time for you, your life will change.
With recent custody of my two month old grandson, I’m asking for help from my friends, family and oddly enough, my ex-husband. I’ve realized I can’t do this all by myself. Taking care of an infant is a full time job, and I already have a full time job. And while it’s more exhausting than I remember, there is so much joy.
When I was young and believed the myth of doing it all, I would run myself into the ground to accomplish everything. Asking for help was cheating. As I TRIED to do it all, there was little time left for myself. I was too exhausted to notice or care. I was miserable.
Fast forward to 2017, I know a thing or too about taking care of myself. I take time for yoga and the gym, spend time with friends and perform my nightly self-care ritual that makes me feel good. It’s the best thing I can do for myself. And for Mason.
In order to make self-care a priority, I’ve had to delegate, prioritize and most importantly, make peace with leaving things undone. ”
What doesn’t get done at this new place in my life is mostly household chores – my home is a bit of a shambles, I’m not cooking for myself and the laundry is piling up. But Mason is well cared for, I’m running my business and I’m honoring myself.
Kaycee is the perfect example of someone who has learned to delgate, prioritize and let go. She is a wife, a mother and she works several different jobs. She is one of the hardest working women I know and one of my favorite people. If you’ve seen her in action at a retreat, you know exactly what I mean.
In the effort to do less and accomplish more, remember there is no right or wrong, there is no perfect scenario. It’s what works best for you. Just like your yoga practice.
- Find Help – Hire childcare, cleaning or cooking help, if it makes your life easier – do it! The latest research shows that spending money on time saving services is a boost for happiness.
- Home Delivery – If it’s ready made meals, diapers or shoes that you need, know that you can get most anything in a day. Take advantage of the convenience of delivery to your door.
- Ask for Help – A dear friend of mine likes to say “You don’t get what you don’t ask for.” Ask for help from your partner, your family, your friends. Gone are the days where the only way to do anything was to do it yourself. It really does take a village.
- Do the Important Tasks First – Children picked up from school. Bills paid. Groceries bought. Whatever needs to be done to keep your day-to-day routine up and running is a priority.
- Paying for It All – If your boss, coworkers or work environment is sucking the life out of you, it may be time to move on. Maybe a career change even. The job market is doing well, now may be the time to make your move.
- What Makes You Happy – What experiences bring you joy? Is it time with friends, a bubble bath, a yoga class or walking your dog? Whatever you need to feel nurtured and grounded, make it a priority.
- Avoid distractions – Constantly checking your phone, obsessively browsing news or social media is only making you feel worse. Stop it. Today.
Make Peace with What You Can’t Do
- Your To-Do List – Take a good look at your to do list and evaluate what really needs to be done. If you have tasks that keep getting moved from one to-do list to another, maybe it’s time to admit those chores will never get done. Delete from your list. Notice the relief you feel.
- Minimize – Get rid of items, obligations and people who don’t serve you. Discover freedom from what is holding you back.
- Acknowledge – You don’t have to do it all. Really. Do what you can do. Forgive yourself for not doing it all. Allow yourself to ask for help. Watch your life change.
I’ve met many women who say they’d love to take time for themselves, but they just don’t have the time. Honestly, you don’t have time to NOT take time for yourself. I firmly believe people make time for what’s important.
I’ve created Retreat in the Pines so Women can celebrate and encourage each other. Life is hard. Letting go is hard. Holding on is harder. I believe we need our tribe around us for support and to know we are not alone. Embrace your female friends and take time to spend time with them. We are all on different journeys. Let us honor each and every woman and the path she has chosen. Let’s encourage each other to renew, refresh and replenish. And let’s do it together.
Feeling irritated, anxious or critical? Feeling uncomfortable and hot, even inside?
Your Pitta may be out of balance. Summer is Pitta season and the bright, hot, sunny days of summer aggravate Pitta. To manage Pitta you must keep yourself cool – not just your body, but even more importantly, your mind and emotions. Balance rest and activity, and set aside time to play and relax.
Pitta is one of three Doshas in the Ayurvedic System. Ayurveda is a sister science to Yoga based on our mind body connection and the healing of the body by using the mind.
If you’re interested in learning more about Ayurveda, check out our Detox & Yoga Retreats.
Awareness of your body is the first step to practicing Ayurveda. Once you’re aware, you can find healing for the mental, physical and emotional symptoms that ail you.”
Stop trying so hard. What a concept! It may seem most advice given today is to lean in and try a little harder. I’m a proponent of less. Less effort equals less stress which equals more peace. Fewer commitments equals more personal time.
If you need a weekend with less effort and more relaxation, join us for a yoga retreat.
In the past few months I’ve incorporated small simple habits, which have, quite honestly, changed my life. One of my favorites is this corner in my bedroom where I’ve created a sanctuary for me. By spending a few moments every day in self- reflection and gratitude; I’ve discovered the space between effort and ease, which feels a lot like contentment to me.
There is a concept in Yoga of sukha which means ease or bliss. The challenge is to bring sukha not only to my yoga practice, but to my life. I admit I’ve forced a yoga pose, I’ve cursed and struggled. You know the pose, the one where the rest of the class looks like they aren’t even trying. So I try harder. That’s the point where I lose any ease or bliss. And I have to remind myself the appearance of no effort, doesn’t necessarily mean it’s effortless.
Can you remember the last time you did something for yourself? Then, think about the last time you did something for somebody else. Your partner, your child, your parent, your friend, your pet.
If you drew a complete blank trying to think of something you did for yourself (taking a three minute break from work e-mail to read this doesn’t count!), yet came up with an immediate list of ten things you did for others, it may be time to schedule time to take care of you.
Of course, if you’d like a little bit of community with your down time, join us for a retreat. Retreat in the Pines is the perfect place to press pause and nurture yourself with good food, yoga, wine and a healthy dose of laughter, enjoying nature and the support of other women. If budget is an issue, check out our retreat assistance program.
If all you have is an evening or an afternoon to spare, this is for you. All of these options can be done in the comfort of your own home, you can also take a mini-retreat outdoors.
Research has shown the more time working mothers spend taking care of themselves equaled improved physical and emotional health for their children. Read more here.
Do you ever find yourself driving with no recollection of how you arrived at your destination? Or going through the motions of listening – while not paying attention at all? Or watching TV, while checking Facebook on your phone? I’m definitely guilty.
Practice mindfulness and find peace, joy and so much more when you join us for one of our Mindfulness and Meditation retreats. Learn more.
I admit, I have struggled with being mindful. I keep thinking to myself (instead of being mindful) “I’m busy! I don’t have time to be mindful.”
But I’ve realized just the opposite, I don’t have time to be mindless – to let the moments of my life pass me by. I don’t want to miss a single thing – interesting conversations with friends, a beautiful sunset, the relaxation of moving my body in yoga, the deliciousness of my first cup of coffee, laughter, tears, hugs.
Now’s the perfect time to savor the flavors of summer before it’s too late. The end of summer is always bittersweet for me – the promise of cooler weather, yet the end of the season for my favorite fruits and veggies. There’s nothing better than a juicy peach from Ham Orchards or a handful of plump East Texas Blueberries to make my heart sing.
If you have yet to savor our freshly prepared, Farm to Table dishes, you’re in for a treat. Our guests rave about our healthy and delicious meals, prepared with lots of love – from locally sourced produce and meat to homemade rosemary and garlic breads. Best of all, you don’t have to lift a finger. No chopping, no cooking, no cleaning up – just relaxing, chatting and enjoying the flavors. Hungry for homemade meals alongside yoga, laughter and wine? Book here.
The struggle is real. To maintain your energy and weight and stay well after 40, that is. Maybe that seems a bit dramatic… I’m 53 and when I take care of myself I still feel like I’m 35. When I don’t take care or take time for me…watch out.
Maybe you struggle with trouble sleeping, hot flashes, weight gain, lack of energy or dry skin and hair; know you’re not alone! I’ve gathered easy, all natural and budget friendly tips to include in your daily life for immediate results. I’ve taken the guess work out of living well. These wellness rituals have helped me let go of the struggle of feeling good after 40 and actually feel good.
Taking care of yourself physically, mentally and emotionally is a must. Anything less and you simply won’t be able to do all that you do.”
First, take time for you. Find new perspective and your tribe at one of our yoga retreats. Take care of you first, and everything else falls into place. I promise.
You know the voice in your head saying…I got this…This is my dream…I deserve better than this. Great news, your voice is right. You’re right. When you hear it, stop what you’re doing and listen. Learning to listen to your intuition, is the first step on your journey to bliss.
If you’re like me and have struggled with listening to your intuition, join us for a retreat. Being away from your daily routine will clear away the clutter. Your voice will come in loud and clear.
I could tell you about the times in my life (disasters – truly) where I had an intuitive feeling about something and I RATIONALIZED it away. Big mistake, every time. Then I can tell you about the times I LISTENED to my gut…and things went amazingly right.
I love this quote by Marianne Williamson: “Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. It is our light, not our darkness that most frightens us. We ask ourselves, who am I to be Brilliant, Gorgeous, Talented, Fabulous? Actually, who are you not to be?”
Here are a few easy DIY essential oil recipes that make great homemade gifts for the holidays!
Some of our retreats offer DIY Aromatherapy Workshops. Find out more here.
Uplifting Holiday Essential Oil Blend
14 drops grapefruit essential oil
6 drops peppermint essential oil
4 drops sage essential oil
Add water to fill a small spray bottle. Use as a blend for any of these fun and easy DIY gift recipes! (You can also find other blends here.)
Do you ever wonder exactly what kind of poisons you’re putting on your skin – just to enjoy the outdoors without being eaten alive? Do you really want to smell like a chemical factory? Due to a very rainy spring season, most of us are having to fend off even more mosquitoes than usual this summer.
Here’s an easy recipe to keep the mosquitoes at bay:
- 4 oz spray bottle
- 30 drops of citronella essential oil*
- 15 drops of tea tree essential oil*
- 25 drops of peppermint essential oil*
- 10 drops of lavender essential oil*
* Use therapeutic grade oil only.
- Fill 1/2 way with distilled or boiled water.
- Add essential oils.
- Add witch hazel to fill.
Test a small amount on skin first to make sure there’s no irritability.