Sue and Daughters Melissa and Pat at a Recent Retreat.
Mothers are truly incredible women. There are no words that can adequately describe the role that they play in our lives. Some of us have the gift of friendship with our mother (something that I am personally incredibly grateful for and blessed by), others have lost their mothers, and some have never met their mothers. We all have a different story to tell about our own, but the role played by a mother is an invaluable thing – whether it’s a birth mother or a grandmother or someone else that might have stepped in when we needed mothering, we each experience a very bond with our mother. A relationship that deserves to be celebrated more than once a year. Here are quotes celebrating 100 years of honoring mothers on Mother’s Day.
In some of our recent newsletters, we asked readers to share with us why their mother deserved a getaway at Retreat in the Pines. And while I didn’t submit my story, it wouldn’t have been picked anyways – I’m guessing that it probably wouldn’t be very relaxing if my mom won a retreat and had to host it at the same time. Katie, however, submitted her entry for the “Why My Mom Deserves a Retreat” giveaway and the story she shared with us about her mother was one that we couldn’t pass up.
Keep reading for Katie’s story, and then my own.
“My mom has had the mixed blessing of raising an additional generation as a working mom. My younger sister lost parental rights to her children, and it was my mother who adopted them all (officially in 2012). My oldest nephew had lived with my mom since he was an infant, over 10 years now. My younger nephew and niece have both lived with her since they left the hospital immediately after their births in 2010 and 2009, respectively. My mother housed, fed, and cared for all three children without hesitation… and without any financial help from my sister, the birthmother.
Katie’s Mom Theresa
Cashing in her 401k with penalties was just one of the many sacrifices my mother made in order to support these children. She has had to deal with everything from irregular court appearances, to CPS case workers, to the Office of the Attorney General, and all sorts of bureaucracy in between, just to keep the children safe. She’s had to take untold amounts of unpaid days off from work, put an unknown number of miles on her car, and spent an unholy amount of time in administrative offices to protect the interests of these children.
My mother has never taken a vacation by herself. She has never gotten a manicure, or a pedicure, or a facial, or gone to happy hour with her friends. She doesn’t drink, or smoke, or even go out to dinner without the children. She doesn’t date – she hasn’t dated anyone since she and my father split over twenty years ago. She’s never had a spa day, or a massage, or gone to a yoga or meditation class, but she is very spiritual and would love it. Of this, I am certain.
My mom stays home with her grandchildren every night, watching movies, going to the neighborhood park, and even taking them out for frozen yogurt on occasion. Everything she does is centered on those children, and they are so lucky to have her – I can testify to this. I truly believe that they would have an even better experience living with a [grand]mom who was better rested, less stressed, and even more peaceful, but of course mom doesn’t make the sacrifice for herself – it isn’t her nature. Not only do I think the Retreat in the Pines experience would be good for her, but I also think it would be good for them – to see that taking time away for self-care is crucial for grownups. I know that they would be able to tell the difference after, and I imagine that my mom would as well.
Katie & Theresa at Katie’s Graduation
My mom deserves to be “forced” to experience restorative time without toddlers for the first time in years. My mom deserves some healing time with peace and her thoughts. She deserves some gentle introspection and opportunity for self-renewal.
I know that my mom will most likely have to work well past the age of retirement. We want her to be mentally, spiritually, and physically fortified for years to come. Being hypertensive – and on medication for it – my mom deserves the calming properties of yoga. This retreat would be an amazing experience for my mom, and I hope it would also mark the beginning of her yogic path.
I love my mom, and I want her to be happy. She deserves to know what happy is outside of the context of my niece and nephews. She will be your best student.
My Mom and I Enjoying Time Together Away from Work
My mother is an amazing woman – I think she deserves way more than I could ever give her. There is no one word that could describe her, and to this day I still tell her that she’s the best mom in the whole world.
I’ve watched my mom endure a lot. I’d like to think that I’ve helped my mom endure a lot. No one has an easy life, but there’s something about being a kid and the way moms do their thing that somehow make everything look easy. So much so that all kids seem to want to do is grow up! But looking back now, I am able to see just how strong my mom actually was… and is.
Growing up, I formed a special relationship with my mom; there were times when it was just the two of us. I always like to think of us as being the team that stuck together through all the years; to this very day we continue to work together. When my mom got laid off from her job she was a single mother raising three kids. It had only been a couple of years since the divorce, and being an adult now I can’t even imagine what that would feel like.
But nothing stopped my mom. To this day she often tells me, “Nina, everything will be okay” and I imagine that this – or some other similar mantra – was what kept her going in those seasons of uncertainty. The layoff was a blessing in disguise – she found her niche and began teaching more and more fitness classes, eventually leading her to the path of becoming a yoga teacher and finding her life’s calling. Though it was hard for all of us at times, everything that has happened – both good and bad – has led us to where we are now.
I’ll say it again, my mom is an amazing woman. She works hard. She loves deeply. She gives selflessly. She’s been through more than I can describe, but she still smiles and laughs more than almost anyone I know. Witnessing her start a business, run it, and pursue her passion is a gift that I treasure. I am so grateful to call her my mother, and I am so blessed by the opportunity to work with her in this adventure called Retreat in the Pines.
Susan and Her Daughter Melissa Enjoying a Yoga Class at a Recent Retreat
Your Mom Deserves a Retreat
I don’t think we give enough credits to our moms. Especially those of us who don’t have our own children, and can’t fully appreciate the lengths that our mothers have gone to in an effort to raise us. So, treat your mom to a retreat. She probably deserves it. And even if you think she doesn’t, maybe she needs it.
Check out our upcoming retreat schedule at RetreatinthePines.com/upcoming-retreats
See you in the pines!
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